Everything You Need to Know About Bridal Shower Etiquette

Everything You Need to Know About Bridal Shower Etiquette

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It’s probably safe to say that most people in the western world know what a bridal shower is, but whether or not they know the etiquette is a different story. And with the blurred lines of modern times, bridal shower etiquette may be even more tricky for those planning and hosting the celebration.

If you’ve been given a heads up to start planning/hosting or are just curious to know the who, what, and when for future showers, keep reading for everything you need to know about planning and hosting a bridal shower.

When is it held?

Typically, bridal showers are held two months to two weeks before the wedding date. Anything less than two weeks is going to add stress to, not only the planner and host, but the guest and bride as well. There is too much to do the week before the wedding to squeeze in a pre-wedding party, so make sure you give everyone enough time to party as well as recover.

Who hosts?

In ye olden times it was the bridesmaids who planned and hosted the bridal shower, but modern times says it’s okay to ditch the rule book and hand the task over to anyone who is willing and able. Friends, family members, or bridesmaids are all welcome to play host.

Who is invited?

It is common courtesy that anyone who is invited to the shower must also be invited to the wedding, so plan carefully. Typically, close friends, family members, bridesmaids, and the maid of honor are invited to the celebration. Separate showers can be held by those who may or may not be attending the wedding. Co-workers, for example, who want to have an in-office bridal shower.

Where is it held?

A bridal shower can be held anywhere so long as you’ve been given the okay. A friend or family’s home, a restaurant, or a special venue that caters to events are all great places to hold a bridal shower.

One thing you’ll want to keep in mind is where everyone is located and what the most central location is. This is particularly important for guests who might live out of town or if the bride lives in a different area from most of the invited guests. In that case, it might be easier to host the shower in a location where the majority of guests reside and have the bride travel.

What’s involved?

Most bridal showers follow a standard template that includes food, drinks, games, and time for opening gifts. You might start the party off by giving a welcome bag to each guest and a name tag. Have guests play ice breaker games before serving food. Once everyone has eaten, play another game before the bride opens presents.

Of course it’s perfectly okay to deviate from these etiquette “rules,” but they do offer a nice base and place to start if you’re unsure of how things should go.

If you have any other burning bridal shower questions, please let us know in the comments!


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